Four Things Men Need to Know About Violent Trauma

Blue-collar men. All-city athletes. Musclebound gangsters. Dope dealers. Carjackers and at least one serial bank robber – a former teammate that once made the FBI’s Top 25 list. These are some of the most masculine men from Imani Kaliid’s L.A. neighborhood throughout his upbringing. In hindsight, these men and he share a common experience – violent trauma.

None of those men would have to admit such to make that statement true.

“I saw the fear in some of their eyes after drive-by shootings. I recognized how a close friend would transform from happy-go-lucky to eerie stillness when his abusive father would visit. I now know that a Vietnam vet who lived four doors down wasnt just some ‘crazy’ guy belligerently ranting at pedestrians for the sake of it. The man had PTSD,” comments Kaliid.

If affected by any form of violent trauma, continue reading…

“With manhood, its all about the why. Why do you need to admit to violent trauma? Why is it important to address it now? Why should you even care?”

It’s easy for material wealth, professional success, physical strength, or even physical prowess to blind what someone may have experienced and been wounded emotionally, and there’s no shame to that.

Take a closer look at Kaliid’s four lessons that men need to know about trauma to effectively process the experience, survive and thrive.

Beat the Trauma

“Beat the trauma! I’m not being dismissive. This is my attitude towards problems when I decide to come for them, and when I do, Im the Cloverfield monster, John Wick and Jason Bourne all rolled up into one man. Violent trauma (i.e., domestic, locker-room, battlefield, etc.) doesnt get to dictate emotional policy in our lives nor does it get to hang around. Nobody is coming to rescue us, so WE must get into the phone booth with it and beat it senseless. It will not magically disappear, which is why this is the one time in our life where being a brut is acceptable. This is the figurative bully to punch in the mouth.”

Self-Care & Survival

Men are often in the business of being providers, guardians and sources of stability. The most common flaw is that they don’t always carve out time for mental well-being. This is as important as medical screenings, and possibly why the suicide rate among men is so high. Prioritize mental wellness and self-care regularly.

Becoming the Best Version

“Right now, you might be doing great. You could be one of those ‘captains of industry’ or ‘master of the universe’ types. If violent trauma is something that is quietly affecting you, you may never be the best version of yourself that you can be. That means you may not ever be the best father, brother, boss, or fill-in-the-blank with whatever your life priorities are. Heres the thing: I can tell you that after addressing my own domestic and street trauma, I am a considerably better man, which has positioned me for greater levels of success and happiness.”

Preparing for the Next Level

Imagine a world with more—smiling more, pushing up more weight, becoming a better lover or more successful entrepreneur, etc.

“I can tell you firsthand that my quality of life is considerably higher now than it was in 2016 when I took that deep dive into my past. I wake up some days feeling invincible! Iv’e freed up mental bandwidth to explore the priorities that I had been procrastinating, and those I didn’t know existed. It boils down to this:

What is it worth to you to take those first initial steps? What is the payoff in avoiding it?

If you were traumatized by violence, chances are you did not ask for it nor did you deserve it.  To hell with any narrative that says you are weak” or somehow lacking in manhood by admitting to this pain.”

Bottom line – Men are the foundation and connective tissue that embody stability, strength and success. Stay strong to keep that intact.

About Imani Kaliid

Imani Kaliid is the author of “There Was Violence,” President of the InVia Foundation and host of the “Misconnected Podcast.”

The InVia Foundation is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit entity based in California that is focused on technological tools and services for victims of violent trauma. “There Was Violence” serves as a relatable testimony and unfortunately common experience for multitudes of victims who remain silent, struggling or healing, which is why Kaliid sought a more direct avenue to connect and contribute to the world by establishing the InVia Foundation to save victims in need.

Access Links:

Website: www.therewasviolence.com

Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/There-Was-Violence-Transformed-L/dp/B09BG5CVLY/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1GQNBFF8EKGHV&keywords=there+was+violence+imani+kaliid&qid=1641264987&sprefix=there+was+viol%2Caps%2C310&sr=8-1

Apple Books: https://books.apple.com/us/audiobook/there-was-violence-how-crime-abuse-and-drugs/id1579108431

Google Books: https://play.google.com/store/books/details/Imani_Kaliid_There_Was_Violence?id=RPM4EAAAQBAJ

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